*sigh*

grambo · Post by **grambo** » Tue Sep 12, 2006 11:10 am

TNK wrote:id liek to hit the guy she cheated on me with a year ago.

I hate to say it dude, but if my wife pulled that AFTER we were married, I'd be hard-pressed to make it work. You are a good man for staying around another six-months after that shit. Sorry to hear what is going on. Honestly though, after the cheating shit, you deserve a friggin medal.

kc2005ptgt · Post by **kc2005ptgt** » Tue Sep 12, 2006 2:30 pm

Good luck with it bro, I hope everything goes well for YOU. As an advocate of marriage, I must say that if my wife cheated on me, I would have a tough time sticking to my convictions. I hope that you find a place of solace, where you can get time to reflect on yourself and what you need. I also pray you do not fall prey to depression and get to a point of where you try to find your comfort in things such as alcohol or drugs. Stay focused and clear headed and you will come out of it wiser, stronger, and a better person - sometime in the future, you WILL see the forest from the trees. Good luck, and God bless!

TNK · Post by **TNK** » Tue Sep 12, 2006 2:32 pm

thank you all. i really apprerciate your support. its tough, i went to the apt. to see her last nite.... i just wanted to hug her... kiss her.... but she told me to go home after i had been there a few minutes.....

grambo · Post by **grambo** » Tue Sep 12, 2006 2:46 pm

And chicks are always saying how guys are fucking dogs and shit. They are WAY worse. Thats why I quit dating. Bit**es play too many games. (I dated one girl who had a friggin Rolodex of guy's names in her room hext to her phone...ho-bag tramp)

Dude, if you want your marriage back. Don't stop trying...ever. If shes the one. Don't ever stop.
If she's playing you and still messin' around, F* her. Go have some rebounds and move on bro.

TNK · Post by **TNK** » Tue Sep 12, 2006 2:59 pm

i told her that i will help her stay in the apartment, so she doesnt get evicted, but as soon as she goes to someone else.... my helpfulness is gone. specially if she goes to the guy that was the root of all this mess...

grambo · Post by **grambo** » Tue Sep 12, 2006 3:08 pm

Your a good dude. Bigger man than she'll prolly ever realize.

TNK · Post by **TNK** » Tue Sep 12, 2006 3:24 pm

thanks.

TNK · Post by **TNK** » Fri Sep 15, 2006 5:21 am

im in such a bad mood....

i went over to the apt. to see if i ahd any mail... i pull up... and theres a graphite dakota sitting in the spot for my apt... im like, wtf? lookign aroudn for the neon... no neon. so i go in, wife's asleep. wake her up, whos dakota is that? mine.

WHAT THE FUCK?!

so i leave.

get down the road and decide to call and ask abotu it. she yells at me, says its none of my business and hangs up on me. i turn around, go back, go inside. and sya "it is my busines, becasue youre still my wife" we get into it. she tells me to get the fuck out and leave my key, i told her to get fucked becasue alot of my shit is still there.... she threatens to call the cops..... i said fuck the cops, im leaeving.

apparently she can pay for this new truck becasue shes gettign a place to live "rent free". on my way out the door i called her a couple choice words..... (slut.... c word.. and a couple eff-bombs were tossed in....)

haul ass out.

calm down, try to call to apologize, she answers adn says fuck off. click. i call and call cand call and call... finally i get to my house (where im living now that is...) and she answers, i talked to her on the phone for almost an hour in my car, bawling like a little bitch... teling her how much i lvoed her.. missed her... wanted her back. she pretty much told me i was a shitty husband, that she wasnt happy with me. thats why she cheated. and that i would never get her back. and she wont tell me where shes moving....

i hate her so much right now. i talked to my dad, he came down and met me at the truck stop and we talked for at least and hour and a half..... helped me realize i need to get paper work and get my hands washed of this chick... shes not the girl i thoguth i married.. she has changed so much.... maybe its my fault... maybe its hers.. maybe its both.. but im so sick of this. im washign my hands of this bitch.... im so pissed right now.... i want to scream, but my roomie is sleepin..... im taking all my shit this week, getting started on getting my blue car transferred to just my name.... get the bills straightened out, get all my subzscriptions and shit sent to my new place.. i gotta get shit sorted out.... god... why did she do this to me..... it hurts so bad....

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Frizbe · Post by **Frizbe** » Fri Sep 15, 2006 11:29 am

That seriously sucks bad. I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through right now.
Best of luck getting through this and remember to keep your head up, there will always be something better in the end.

2k2patriotblueneon · Post by **2k2patriotblueneon** » Fri Sep 15, 2006 1:08 pm

Hey TNK. I am sorry to have touched upon a touchy subject in the other thread.

With that being said I can help you here. This chick sounds EXACTLY like my ex to the fockin letter man. You are right, wipe your hands and move on. Switch the car to your Mom or Dads names then she cannot even think of touching it. Even getting her name off the title won't help as long as yours is on there she deserves half in the eyes of the law. And the law always takes the side of the bitches.

Get a lawyer just to cover your @ss! Find some whore in a bar and fock her brains out to get your mind off this chick she isn't worth a moments thought. By all means do not show any emotion to her or she will think shes getting to you and she will only get worse. Don't cry on the phone with her anymore....crying is understandable just don't do it infront of her. And the biggest thing is to make sure there are always witnesses around when you meet up with her....witnesses who will not take her side. Divorces are nasty and just when you think it cannot get worse it will. Good luck, keep your head up and be strong. Need an ear feel free to PM me like I said I have been there and done that.....even got the t-shirt.

MyNeonSaysHi · Post by **MyNeonSaysHi** » Fri Sep 15, 2006 1:17 pm

i talked to her on the phone for almost an hour in my car, bawling like a little bitch... teling her how much i lvoed her.. missed her... wanted her back.

Big mistake.

on my way out the door i called her a couple choice words..... (slut.... c word.. and a couple eff-bombs were tossed in....)

Another mistake.

Ok .. right now you are pushing, telling her you love her, breaking down in tears etc. She doing the same? I doubt it. She is pulling all of this in. But if you stop the pushing then she will have nothing to pull in and it will drive her nuts. Here are a couple good sayings I try to live by... "Think before you speak" & "Loose lips sink ships"

Regrets are bad. Remember what I posted earlier in this thread? I wish you luck. Don't try to make contact with her for 2 months. Let her call you and be POSITIVE when she does call you. And be happy. Then she will have nothing to pull in. Its a learning expierence. I grew strong when I broke up with my x and learned a shitload. Rember...There are smarter,hotter chicks out there than her. I recently saw my ex the other day @ college. We made eye contact with each other but no expressions at all. Man she looks ugly and helled out now.

My heart started to beat fast and I thought about the good times.. but that subsided very fast. Usually it takes longer but it was very quick.

Hang in there TNK!

TNK · Post by **TNK** » Fri Sep 15, 2006 3:35 pm

thanks guys.
new developements in the situation. she called me this morning, we both apologized for last ngiht, but then we ended up getting into it again becasue of that truck she wanted to buy. well, then we boith apologized again adn things are ok between us. were not gettgin back together, BUT were not at the stage of "i fucking hate you!" now.

shes not getting the truck. it needed tires they wouldnt puttires on it. and they were j00ing her. it was advertised @ 8900. they were trying to charge her 10500. she talked to her dad and then went and talked to them, the owner got all ass chapped and told her to get the fuck out. she called me crying becasue noone has ever treated her like that. she doesnt deserve that from him. noone does. im half temopted to go lay into his cocky arrogant ass. (ive dealt with him before, hes a cocky assbag). but anyways, i advised her to stick with the neon for now. get on her feet. so right now, things are ok between us. im losing the feeling of "oph my god, i want you back" now its just kinda becoming more acceptance...

bige1030 · Post by **bige1030** » Fri Sep 15, 2006 8:29 pm

TNK wrote:she talked to her dad and then went and talked to them, the owner got all ass chapped and told her to get the fuck out. she called me crying becasue noone has ever treated her like that. she doesnt deserve that from him. noone does. im half temopted to go lay into his cocky arrogant ass. (ive dealt with him before, hes a cocky assbag).

Don't do anything with the car dealer. Sure, he's an ass and deserves a talking to, but it might look like you're trying to win her back. I thought I'd never say this...but now is the time not to be nice to your wife. Civil, yes, but nice, no. Also, it's time for her to learn how to be on her own, since that's the way it'll be once the divorce is done and over with.

kc2005ptgt · Post by **kc2005ptgt** » Fri Sep 15, 2006 8:52 pm

TNK, I have to chime in without telling you what I think you should do or not do - I read a lot of good and bad advice in these past few posts, and I must say, it sure is nice to have people from all over the country who want to help out and want to give advice and tell you what they think, but all the while are still here for you no matter what - that is cool!

When I was 22, my son was born and me and his mom were not getting along. I was actually not even invited to his birth, and I never got to see him grow up (she took him away, across country to an undisclosed location for 3 years) and I never got to know him and see his things like first steps, first words, crawling, poddy training, all that stuff people get to do with little ones... so anyways, long story short, she came back into my life when her marriage went down the toilets and her husband kicked her out. She moved back all of a sudden and wanted to be back in my life and have something to do with my son.

I didn't know what to do, I had always loved her, and was never over her (I think it was the connection with me and my son that I was really in love with, but that came years later) so I decided to let her back into my life, and I suddenly took over all the responsibility of helping to raise my son and be apart of his and now her life.

We would meet, and hang out at places like McD's so my son and her new daughter could play and have a good time and get to know each other... all those old feelings came rushing back, and I found myself wanting to be with her again. We never tried dating, and I never told her I still (so I thought) loved her.

Well, another long story short, eventually I lost everything because of child support that she slapped on me, and had no home, car, or job - I was homeless, and she again wanted nothing t do with me or me with my son. So I moved across the country to Las Vegas to escape and get better.

Well, almost a year later, she finds out where I am and calls me on fathers day and has my now 4 years old son wish me happy fathers day. It was only a matter of 5 moths later I was back in his life and hers, and once again, I thought I was in love with her (again).

So I spent every waking moment and every dollar on her and my son. I would stay up with her all into the night - help her clean and buy her things she needed (for the kids, of course). Then she got pregnant by some guy that was a one night fling.

By the time I met my wife some 6 months later, she was living in section 8 housing, being pimped by some guy who was madly in love with her, and almost ready to pop out her third child. I finally realized something - I was never in love with her, I was only in love with the idea of being in love with her. Her and me, would make sense, I thought. No way it would ever work.

Anyway, I ended up moving on, and several times in the past 5 years, she has removed my son from my life - always because of money. See, the point of my story is we all have vices and desires. My device was women, and needing that pretty little thing next to me and the perfect 2.5 kids family, blah blah blah... Hers? Easy - money, and a lot of it (which is why she married a millionaire), and never having to lift a finger and work another day in her life.

Wow... I wrote alot, and I hope that someone else misery and bad decisions can make your life seem a little easier

I know it does not make things seem good at all, but at least you can be comforted by the fact that you are not alone in this world, and that some people have either been through what you are going through, or someone has walked in your shoes and come out victorious.

Take care bro, good luck, and God Bless.

LowNSlow · Post by **LowNSlow** » Fri Sep 15, 2006 8:56 pm

bige1030 wrote:
TNK wrote:she talked to her dad and then went and talked to them, the owner got all ass chapped and told her to get the fuck out. she called me crying becasue noone has ever treated her like that. she doesnt deserve that from him. noone does. im half temopted to go lay into his cocky arrogant ass. (ive dealt with him before, hes a cocky assbag).
Don't do anything with the car dealer. Sure, he's an ass and deserves a talking to, but it might look like you're trying to win her back. I thought I'd never say this...but now is the time not to be nice to your wife. Civil, yes, but nice, no. Also, it's time for her to learn how to be on her own, since that's the way it'll be once the divorce is done and over with.

Agreed - You're not there to save her anymore man. That was her choice. Let her do her thing.. let her make her choices. You need to geton YOUR feet and not worry about hers.