Life changing Vacation?
Posted: Wed Jul 18, 2007 11:01 am
or, I'm taking a long trip to Minnesota and spending some time on a 100 acre farm.
The girl that I was dating, and talked about on here a while ago, has pretty much completely shredded what I thought of her, and in the same instance, has made me feel completely nuts.
We broke up a while back because we were fighting A LOT! We talked things out a little and were going to work on things. Fast forward to a few weeks ago:
My friend Cheryl(also an ex-girlfriend, but much much more of a friend, I.E. no attraction at all) is moving to Hawaii and having a going away party. I went to the party, had to much to drink, and fell asleep on the couch at her mom's house around 1am. During this time, Shawn(the now Ex) called me 5, yes 5 times between 10pm-12am. I didn't answer because (A) I was drunk, (B) because I was at someones party and don't normally answer my phone, and (C) because Cheryl doesn't like Shawn for the bullshit thats happened over the past year.
Shawn decides I've done something terribly wrong because I didn't answer my phone and I spent hte night at Cheryl's. I explain to her that Cheryl has a boyfriend, we're only friends, and that if she doesn't believe me, she can call Cheryl and I'll let her explain it. That wasn't good enough, Shawn texted me the next day, and told me not to call her until I thought I was wrong, and I didn't. An entire week went by, and no contact.
Shawn called me the following monday(8 days later), and said we need to talk. I agreed and we met for dinner. When we met, she was PISSED that I didn't call her. I again explained that I didn't do anything wrong, and that I had to much to drink and spent the night. That wasn't good enough for her, so she said "we need to take a break for a while". Fine by me, you need to calm down, and then we'll talk.
Well, we spent my birthday together, and some "things" happened. During that time she said "you know, this doesn't mean anything, right?" To which I responded "sure". I asked her the next morning what she meant, and she said she said that because she had to much to drink, etc etc.
A couple days later, she confesses that she doesn't want to date me anymore, and just wants to be friends. I tell her thats impossible because of what happened on my birthday, and because there is still an attraction between us. She gets upset, I give in, we try to be friends. It blew up in our faces. We hung out, friday-saturday-sunday of this weekend, friday was ok for the most part. Saturday was pretty much wonderful and I thought maybe she was starting to reconsider things because she said she had a great time with me, and was happy we were hanging out and.. *ahem*. Sunday she came with me to my family reunion and had a great time, and introduced herself as my "girlfriend". I thought that was odd, and just played things by ear. The rest of the day, as several family members notice, she was all over me, holding my hand, kissing me, etc, and they thought it was odd considering she "didn't want to date me anymore.".
Later that night, we had another talk, and again she said she had a wonderful time, but that she just wants to be friends, and was sorry about Saturday night. I explain to her thats not going to happen, she cries, and I got pissed. I demanded to get my shit back, and that would be the last she heard from me.
We met monday, my mom went with me, because my mom and dad love this girl and my mom wanted to say good bye. They said good bye, and her and my mom talked. Shawn said to me, just before she handed me my stuff, "this isn't goodbye you know?", i responded with, "ok, than what is it?" She didn't respond, instead, she started crying, handed me my stuff and asked me if i had anything to say.
I got upset, and explained to her what I let down I felt like I was to her mother, because I'm really the only person she knows here, I told her to take care of herself, and that if she ever felt like working things out, she knew my phone number. I put my stuff in my car, and she really started to cry, I hugged her, and she hugged me back, kissing me several times on my cheek and neck, and saying she was sorry things were turning out the way they were. I said "whatever, its your choice Shawn, only you can chose what you want." and got in my car and left. My mom was crying, she was crying, and I had a little tear to, but i know I have to do this, right? Being friends just isn't in the cards, right?
Anyway, she maintains I'm still her best friend, and that we'll talk again some day. I have no plans of that happening. However, i do plan on taking a vacation to my aunt and uncles 100 acre farm in Minnesota. Its quiet, its peaceful, and its 90 minutes from Canada. its 75*s there the 1st week of august which is perfect for me. I think I'm going to go, just as a get-away-from-everything type of vacation. Sound like a good idea to ya'll?
The girl that I was dating, and talked about on here a while ago, has pretty much completely shredded what I thought of her, and in the same instance, has made me feel completely nuts.
We broke up a while back because we were fighting A LOT! We talked things out a little and were going to work on things. Fast forward to a few weeks ago:
My friend Cheryl(also an ex-girlfriend, but much much more of a friend, I.E. no attraction at all) is moving to Hawaii and having a going away party. I went to the party, had to much to drink, and fell asleep on the couch at her mom's house around 1am. During this time, Shawn(the now Ex) called me 5, yes 5 times between 10pm-12am. I didn't answer because (A) I was drunk, (B) because I was at someones party and don't normally answer my phone, and (C) because Cheryl doesn't like Shawn for the bullshit thats happened over the past year.
Shawn decides I've done something terribly wrong because I didn't answer my phone and I spent hte night at Cheryl's. I explain to her that Cheryl has a boyfriend, we're only friends, and that if she doesn't believe me, she can call Cheryl and I'll let her explain it. That wasn't good enough, Shawn texted me the next day, and told me not to call her until I thought I was wrong, and I didn't. An entire week went by, and no contact.
Shawn called me the following monday(8 days later), and said we need to talk. I agreed and we met for dinner. When we met, she was PISSED that I didn't call her. I again explained that I didn't do anything wrong, and that I had to much to drink and spent the night. That wasn't good enough for her, so she said "we need to take a break for a while". Fine by me, you need to calm down, and then we'll talk.
Well, we spent my birthday together, and some "things" happened. During that time she said "you know, this doesn't mean anything, right?" To which I responded "sure". I asked her the next morning what she meant, and she said she said that because she had to much to drink, etc etc.
A couple days later, she confesses that she doesn't want to date me anymore, and just wants to be friends. I tell her thats impossible because of what happened on my birthday, and because there is still an attraction between us. She gets upset, I give in, we try to be friends. It blew up in our faces. We hung out, friday-saturday-sunday of this weekend, friday was ok for the most part. Saturday was pretty much wonderful and I thought maybe she was starting to reconsider things because she said she had a great time with me, and was happy we were hanging out and.. *ahem*. Sunday she came with me to my family reunion and had a great time, and introduced herself as my "girlfriend". I thought that was odd, and just played things by ear. The rest of the day, as several family members notice, she was all over me, holding my hand, kissing me, etc, and they thought it was odd considering she "didn't want to date me anymore.".
Later that night, we had another talk, and again she said she had a wonderful time, but that she just wants to be friends, and was sorry about Saturday night. I explain to her thats not going to happen, she cries, and I got pissed. I demanded to get my shit back, and that would be the last she heard from me.
We met monday, my mom went with me, because my mom and dad love this girl and my mom wanted to say good bye. They said good bye, and her and my mom talked. Shawn said to me, just before she handed me my stuff, "this isn't goodbye you know?", i responded with, "ok, than what is it?" She didn't respond, instead, she started crying, handed me my stuff and asked me if i had anything to say.
I got upset, and explained to her what I let down I felt like I was to her mother, because I'm really the only person she knows here, I told her to take care of herself, and that if she ever felt like working things out, she knew my phone number. I put my stuff in my car, and she really started to cry, I hugged her, and she hugged me back, kissing me several times on my cheek and neck, and saying she was sorry things were turning out the way they were. I said "whatever, its your choice Shawn, only you can chose what you want." and got in my car and left. My mom was crying, she was crying, and I had a little tear to, but i know I have to do this, right? Being friends just isn't in the cards, right?
Anyway, she maintains I'm still her best friend, and that we'll talk again some day. I have no plans of that happening. However, i do plan on taking a vacation to my aunt and uncles 100 acre farm in Minnesota. Its quiet, its peaceful, and its 90 minutes from Canada. its 75*s there the 1st week of august which is perfect for me. I think I'm going to go, just as a get-away-from-everything type of vacation. Sound like a good idea to ya'll?
Time to move on.
