A pretty big dilema

gninja21 · Post by **gninja21** » Mon Aug 06, 2007 2:38 am

Its a long story and I'm gonna sum it up.

I haven't slept well in about 1 month because of this. Its causing me quite a bit of turmoil so to speak.

My sister is getting married. All of my relatives are going to be there. My mother is looked down upon by all of her relatives (father, mother, sister etc.) My older sister is the one who started all of the problems. Lies then expanded into people saying my mother was a horrible parent. I've been dealing with this for a long long long time now and I'm fed up. I am always defending my mother against them and I shouldn't have to defend her against her own family.

I feel like I don't want anything to do with anyone else in her family other than my mother, father, step-father and sister(i have a younger one). My older sister is tearing my mother up inside and I see it. I honestly don't want to ruin her wedding day but I'm getting sick of the bullshit, i know that if they come at my mother with comments that make her feel like crap, I'm going to snap.

I don't knwo what to do and there's no one I can really ask advice from.

I know this is not the place to say these but I think an outside look will give me an idea of what to do?

WykedHellFire · Post by **WykedHellFire** » Mon Aug 06, 2007 3:49 am

hmm...i dont normally give advice on here and im 19 so it might not matter to you, but what I would do is go up to the people that are are saying these things to her and set them straight...it's just me though, when I was 10 my uncle and aunt used to beat on my mom so....I dunno man do what you think is right.

biggrobb1995 · Post by **biggrobb1995** » Mon Aug 06, 2007 11:09 am

I'm in the same boat with my oldest sister. She is 10 years older than me so I wasn't around to see a lot of the "wrong" my mom did. My other sister (8 years older than me) has put the past behind her and gets along just fine with my mom. Lately I'm to the point where I get extremely blunt and tell my sister or mom, depending on who I am talking to at the time, to grow the hell up. What happened in the past happened and cannot be changed. My mom has apologized till she has run out of breath but my sister won't budge. The change has to come from my sister. It looks like the same has to happen with your sister and I really hope she does so that her and your mom can get along like a mother and daughter should. Hope I helped.