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Roommates? wtf?

Post by Kelevra » Thu Dec 06, 2012 2:49 am

Ok, So. I moved out on my own, kinda. I'm bunked up with 2 other roommates, my friend since Jr. High and his girlfriend/fiance. Now, It's been a struggle to get this far, about a month in, and there are things that have been bothering me about them. not that they're weird or doing anything illegal, it's just that boundaries are being crossed that shouldn't be. In my opinion. Like food, toiletries, etc.

What do I mean, exactly? Well, I moved in under the impression that we would look out for one another as they have said this, turns out this isn't so much the case and a mere month in I am having thoughts that living with my father, again, would be better then with these two.

Ok, let me actually explain. It started off ok, except when they made something I got the 'left overs' not really complaining because, well, it was nice enough for them to give me anything, I guess. But when things started to get tight on my end and I barely could afford food because I had to make rent I went hungry because I lost hours because of Superstorm Sandy. the only saving grace was thanksgiving at my aunt's and the LOADS of food she sends me home with. This issue was further amplified by the fact that when I brought home food to make it through payday and it was picked at by them to the point my food budget for just myself became myself and 2 others. So, I put my foot down, told them this is my food and if they want anything they can ask me because I can't afford to buy food for them too. I separated my food and things have been a little better, but my food is still picked at. not only that but while on my way home from work they called me and asked me to pick up a bottle of alcohol, told them I don't have money and was promised that they'd pay be back, they never did and when it came time to pay rent I didn't have enough and took what they owed me from the bottle (about $16 from a $25 bottle) out of the rent, they made a big deal over this after I told them I couldn't buy it and make rent at the same time.

So, ok, food is one thing, but when I come home from work, the one thing I want to do is get on MY computer. I told them they can use it as long as they were off of it when I walked in that door and they didn't check their email (facebook is fine) because I didn't want to have to deal with viruses. Mind you, the computer is in my room and I pay for the internet. Well, these rules were promptly broken as they didn't get off when I walked in my room and I sat on my bed waiting for them to get off being told 'one minute' and finding they were still logged into their email when I went to check mine. Needless to say, I now have a password lock on my computer.

Now, my final point and this is the one that really steamed me, but I came home from work and needed to use the bathroom but there was no TP, so I ask my roommate "do we have any TP?" they both say no, now I know this is BS for three reasons. one being I seen their 'stash' and took a roll from it when there was none in the bathroom one day figuring it just ran out. Two, there's a female in the house, they're never without TP and if they were, it'd be a huge problem that everyone from here to Timbuktu would know. And three, I found a roll hidden under the sink when I just couldn't hold it any more. Needless to say, I didn't use it and went the shower route. Really nice, right?

What it comes down to is I feel like I'm being used. Now, I know I haven't been a 100% joy to live with either, but shit, to eat my food when I don't touch theirs, use my computer, breaking the rules I set up and denying me TP when I really needed it isn't right and every time I try to talk to them they make me seem like the asshole.

Sorry, I needed to vent and I need opinions on this. What should I do?

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Post by dvon17 » Thu Dec 06, 2012 3:13 am

I'd say it's time to move.

Either that or, you didn't make sure they understood what you meant when you put your foot down.

There's two of them and one of you. There's no reason for them to have to come to you for extra money or necessities or anything else for that matter.

Tell them to get their shit together or just pack your shit and leave...

...let them know you're leaving first though. No extra drama needed.
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Post by freelancer1988 » Thu Dec 06, 2012 4:24 am

They might see you as the asshole for locking your PC and telling them to leave your food alone.... so not sharing the TP could of been the same to them for you. They did share their food in the beginning so maybe they think it is okay to have some of yours. I am not agreeing with what they are doing is right. I would say I am backing you completely and I also think they are being children. Move back in with your father if it does not get settled. No point in trying to fight something that is only going to get worse as time goes on. Let them know what your thinking. Point out the TP stash and start WWIII.
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Post by Kelevra » Thu Dec 06, 2012 5:57 am

freelancer1988 wrote:They might see you as the asshole for locking your PC and telling them to leave your food alone.... so not sharing the TP could of been the same to them for you. They did share their food in the beginning so maybe they think it is okay to have some of yours. I am not agreeing with what they are doing is right. I would say I am backing you completely and I also think they are being children. Move back in with your father if it does not get settled. No point in trying to fight something that is only going to get worse as time goes on. Let them know what your thinking. Point out the TP stash and start WWIII.
Thing is, I asked if I could have some food when they cooked dinner, they didn't hand it to me without me asking first. I expected the same courtesy when it came to my food. Also, I told them the rules of the computer and they broke them so they pay the consequences of having to ask me to get on if they want on it. They have access to it, they just never ask at this point, except for a few odd times. I basically let them on when I'm not on it and in the middle of something and only if it's important. I mean, the rig is valued at over $1700 (I didn't pay but 1/2 of that, but still)

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Post by r/tguy02 » Thu Dec 06, 2012 8:01 am

if you all cant learn to share, and i mean everything (cept the woman of course :rofl: ) then i'd say move out. if you're living together you cant have mine and yours, it just doesnt work very well. sharing in moderation also comes to mind, you cant hoard everything, just take what you need and move on. i'm not necessarily directing this towards you, i'm talking about your roomate as well. Good luck :thumbup:
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Post by ThatKevin » Thu Dec 06, 2012 8:04 am

Seems like dumb problems. Sit down with them and talk over these things? They should know your situation, but if not, explain it to them. If that doesn't work then time to go somewhere else.
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Post by sidepipe87 » Thu Dec 06, 2012 8:39 am

TL;DR: tried substituting TP with a shower?????? :shock:
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Post by Midnight_Rider » Thu Dec 06, 2012 9:45 am

Your situation sounds like so many episodes of Judge Ross, Judge Mathis, The People's Court or Judge Judy. I say move out.
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Post by mopar2 » Thu Dec 06, 2012 10:02 am

When it comes to roomies, you either do things together or seperate ie; shopping, internet, cable, etc etc etc. I would move out, it sounds like trust is an issue. If you can't trust each other than what can you do?
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Re: Roommates? wtf?

Post by sidepipe87 » Thu Dec 06, 2012 12:05 pm

Kelevra wrote: Well, these rules were promptly broken as they didn't get off when I walked in my room and I sat on my bed waiting for them to get off being told 'one minute' and finding they were still logged into their email when I went to check mine.
What I really wanted to know is... what are you waiting for them to get off of? The bed, or did you buy a new computer chair after that fiasco?

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Post by r/tguy02 » Thu Dec 06, 2012 4:14 pm

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Post by Haganracing » Thu Dec 06, 2012 4:28 pm

:rofl:!!!

The chair incident :lol:


Serious question, is the girl roommate hot?? Got any pictures?
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Post by Kelevra » Thu Dec 06, 2012 5:42 pm

While I appreciate the 'comic relief' It's a serious matter. Please don't dick off in the thread. Thanks!

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Post by Haganracing » Thu Dec 06, 2012 6:46 pm

Oh I'm sorry

I will sit here and watch you guys work :thumbup:
occasional demons wrote:So maybe a FuzzyDanteHagan sammich might just beat a FuzzyHagan. :-k
Danteneon wrote:My advice is to fight those urges and enjoy the fact that you have both X and Y chromosomes. And an SRT. And your hand. You don't need a girl.

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Post by Danteneon » Fri Dec 07, 2012 12:43 pm

Kelevra wrote:While I appreciate the 'comic relief' It's a serious matter. Please don't dick off in the thread. Thanks!
Keep in mind, this is an off-topic thread. There are no rules against random posts so long as they don't go too far.

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Post by Haganracing » Fri Dec 07, 2012 4:49 pm

Did you see what I did in my last post???

"I will sit here and watch you work"

(2 years ago at Carlisle)

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occasional demons wrote:So maybe a FuzzyDanteHagan sammich might just beat a FuzzyHagan. :-k
Danteneon wrote:My advice is to fight those urges and enjoy the fact that you have both X and Y chromosomes. And an SRT. And your hand. You don't need a girl.

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Post by sidepipe87 » Sat Dec 08, 2012 12:09 am

Haganracing wrote:Did you see what I did in my last post???

"I will sit here and watch you work"

(2 years ago at Carlisle)

:lol:
Hell, even Ann got the reference and she wasn't even there! She was actually the one that pointed it out to me as I was skimming over the thread and I overlooked it :rofl:

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Post by INVUJerry » Sat Dec 08, 2012 10:39 am

Looks like you all don't really like each other, and you don't have enough money to really survive on your own. I'd move back home.
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Post by sidepipe87 » Sat Dec 08, 2012 2:44 pm

^What this guy said.
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Post by heyybaker » Sat Dec 08, 2012 3:09 pm

I went through a very similar situation, but I was paying rent to live with my (now ex) boyfriend and his family. We had a mini-fridge in our room, and everything in that room was mine (the full bed, tv stand, fridge, mirror, other stuff) minus the tv. They came in and lounged around in there, and took food from the fridge, used my laptop without asking. I never said anything (except to my boyfriend who I should have known wouldn't have said anything to them). I regret to tell you it ultimately got worse, they broke my stuff (laptop three times) and didn't pay for it, and the buffoon still has my bed.

I agree with the people saying confront them and/or move out.
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Post by freelancer1988 » Sun Dec 09, 2012 1:57 am

^^ Yes I do :D



Anyways, I too have been thru something not so similar, except my roommate lost her job and had no money to pay rent. I told her for about three months to go out and look, but she had more important things to do... like World of Warcraft..... :banghead: I of course paid the difference... Ugh.

Long story short, I kicked her out and she moved back with her parents. She did understand and we are still friends to this day.


You do not sound like you can kick anyone out, so maybe moving on would be best. Don't take any offense to my earlier post, but I do have a question...

What kind of specs are you running on a $1,700 computer sir? Mine is just under that.
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Post by occasional demons » Sun Dec 09, 2012 12:00 pm

heyybaker wrote: and the buffoon still has my bed.

I know they aren't cheap, but would you really want it back? :lol:
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Post by heyybaker » Sun Dec 09, 2012 4:42 pm

It's a nice queen bed with a nice wooden frame. I could easy steam clean his existence and memories ;)
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Post by Hudson_Neon » Sun Dec 09, 2012 5:05 pm

i'm pretty sure somebody puked in my living room last night...

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