*sigh*

TNK · Post by **TNK** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 12:10 am

im depressed.

the wife and i are calling it quits. well, she is. id like to make it work, even though i know this is for the best. weve had some problems and tried to work it out, but things werent going as smoothly as hoped, and today she told me "i want a divorce" so tomorrow im moving in at my friendshouse. at first i felt fine, relieved, like i had nothing holding me back anymore... but now... it hurts. im depressed.... it sucks. were having a bbq/party at my friends tonight, and im not even in the mood to be outside with everyone, so im posting. i feel a lil suicidal, but i could never do that, so dont worry... but yeah... this sucks ass.

oh and to make the day better, i scratched the SRT bumper today....

WiTeOuT · Post by **WiTeOuT** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 12:37 am

Man TNK I am so very very sorry to hear about it. This is one of those situations where as a person that only knows you on here, I can say that I truly hope that it turns out for the best. Sometimes things can work out... EVEN after hitting rock bottom...and sometimes things were never supposed to be.

I will totally keep you in my prayers, and always remember the great things in your life. If you need time away from people and to yourself then do it, but be careful not to get tooo "inside" as it may turn into depression which is never good. Keep your head up and things will come out right. You always have a ton of friends here!

I'm sorry to hear your going through a bad time though......if you need anything just holla.

Automatic · Post by **Automatic** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 12:39 am

At this moment dont let your feelings lead you the wrong way instead do the right thing.For example me right know I " FEEL" like hiting up a wall."DOING THE RIGHT THING" dont do it cause you could end up in jail for hiting up.

TNK · Post by **TNK** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 12:54 am

id liek to hit the guy she cheated on me with a year ago.

OB · Post by OB » Sun Sep 10, 2006 12:57 am

sorry bro keep your head up. we're all here for ya.

Automatic · Post by **Automatic** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 1:01 am

TNK wrote:id liek to hit the guy she cheated on me with a year ago.

Control those feelings TNK,dont let your feelings lead you the wrong way.

DannyBoy · Post by **DannyBoy** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 1:07 am

Sorry it didn't work out bro.

TNK · Post by **TNK** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 1:58 am

me too. and surprisingly... im not drunk.... wish i was... but im not. i hafta work at 7am

Frizbe · Post by **Frizbe** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 2:01 am

Not to be an ass at the wrong time or anything but..........

TNK wrote:im not drunk.... wish i was...

Could this be the reason why she is leaving you?

Ifixyawata · Post by **Ifixyawata** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 2:23 am

TNK, I kinda know how you feel. Same sort of thing happened to me a few years ago. At first, like you said, the feeling of relief, but then you feel like, though you have nothing holding you back, you really have nowhere to go. I'm sorry to hear the D word. How long have you guys been married? It's really a shame to hear this news.

Like OB said, the 2gn community is here to help you forget some of your problems.

TNK · Post by **TNK** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 2:25 am

Frizbe wrote:Not to be an ass at the wrong time or anything but..........

TNK wrote:im not drunk.... wish i was...
Could this be the reason why she is leaving you?

has nothing to do with it actually. i honestly dont have a drinking problem. i do however enjoy drinking. i do nto drink every day. i do not get drunk every week. it seems liek i do it alot cuz i post drunk on here alot lately....

she just wasnt happy with out marriage. we were married for a year and a half as of last week. i wasnt happy wiht what she haad done to me, i have serious trust issues now. extreme paranoia when im not wiht her.... that type of thing... i think ill have it for a long long time......

thnaks for your support everyone

LowNSlow · Post by **LowNSlow** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 3:04 am

TNK wrote:
Frizbe wrote:Not to be an ass at the wrong time or anything but..........

TNK wrote:im not drunk.... wish i was...
Could this be the reason why she is leaving you?
has nothing to do with it actually. i honestly dont have a drinking problem. i do however enjoy drinking. i do nto drink every day. i do not get drunk every week. it seems liek i do it alot cuz i post drunk on here alot lately....

she just wasnt happy with out marriage. we were married for a year and a half as of last week. i wasnt happy wiht what she haad done to me, i have serious trust issues now. extreme paranoia when im not wiht her.... that type of thing... i think ill have it for a long long time......

thnaks for your support everyone

I'm sorry to hear that man....

I know hindsite (sp?) is only 20/20... but she cheated on you a year ago?... You guys were only married half a year before she cheated on you?.. You shoulda gave her the boot.

Just kick it with your buddies a lot..

Sounds like you're better off now.. as hard as that is to believe.

bige1030 · Post by **bige1030** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 3:10 am

Sorry to hear about the divorce, man. It's too bad that she wants to leave you...man, one day you think that you'll be together forever, and then this. Sorry to hear that you're experiencing such problems.

I hope that this transition goes smoothly and that you live and learn and become a better man because of it.

TNK · Post by **TNK** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 3:51 am

i really appreciate the support everyone....

lownslow, its a very complex situation.... more than id like to explain

MyNeonSaysHi · Post by **MyNeonSaysHi** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 1:32 pm

Everyone has their ups and downs in life. Its a learning expierence. You have been with her for quite some time. And now she isn't there anymore. Youa re probably feeling "in the dumps" right now correct?

Have you had any of these thoughts recently:?

"I can't live without _________"
"I can't be happy until ________ comes back to me"
"________ is the only person I could ever love"
"I wish ________ was here so I could feel good"

If so you ARE having irrational thoughts because these statements are NOT true.

YOU can live without her. You can be happy without her. No one is capable of loving one person. You can be perfectly fine without her. Remember you don't [/i]need her. You desire her. Theres thousands of girls out there for you dude. Just keep your chin up and don't dwell on this situation. It will only get worse if you do. Stop the irrational thinking. If you can be honest with yourself you do not need her. Just stay busy and don't get depressed. Do things that made you happy back in the day. Enjoy your freedom! Enjoy life! Whenever you think about her, lock that thought away and think about about other numerous things that make you happy. I went through a bad break up and I learned the hard way. I just want to share some things I learned. I am there for you man. Rant off. I could go on all day about this.

scneonchic · Post by **scneonchic** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 1:42 pm

Im sorry to hear that....I understand what you mean about the trust issues. I have been cheated on a couple of times and it hurts, even if you try to pretend it doenst. Its hard to get that trust back once its gone.

Try to take care of yourself and dont do anything to hurt yourself. I know you said you wouldnt, but Im just reinforcing that. we are all here for you if you need us....things will get better,

03sxt · Post by **03sxt** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 1:43 pm

I'm sorry to hear this, TNK. Like someone else said, hang out with your buddies. They're the best thing to have in times like this.

MyNeonSaysHi · Post by **MyNeonSaysHi** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 1:47 pm

Trust is a HUGE issue. Once that trust is gone.... It only gets worse. I just don't get how people can cheat, wtf is going on in their head!? its just so fucked up and it pisses me off. I don't think there is ANYTHING they can do to make up for that.

dblsg · Post by **dblsg** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 1:53 pm

LowNSlow wrote:but she cheated on you a year ago?... You guys were only married half a year before she cheated on you?.. You shoulda gave her the boot.

i have to agree with lowlow... i know you said there's more to the story, but this was only 6 months of being married. and the way i see it... thats the one you found out about... do you think there could of been more?

6 months is a very very short time when you think about it. i mean most people wanna be married for a "lifetime", right? how long did you plan on living?

trust is the root of a relationship... if you can't trust someone, i don't think you can have a good relationship. but like everyone said... were here for you.

Post by **Diablo0** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 1:58 pm

Damn, TNK, sorry to hear about this.... keep your head up man, don't let it get to you, raul in the nail on the head with what he said. Surround yourself with friends, people that you enjoy being around, they're the best thing you can be around. Do things you enjoyed doing before, concentrate on making youself happy and not someone else. Take your time, get through it and no matter what you're thinking right now, things always work out for the best in the end. Just be around friends, hang out, don't drink your problems away, it might be hard but it's better to just confront them instead of avoiding them. You've got friends on here man. If she cheated on you only a year into your marriage you can do better than her. I'm suprised you didn't kick her ass to the curb then.

Good luck man, DO NOT let it bring you down, you feel like shit now but you've gotta get up, dust yourself off and work to make yourself feel better. Dweling on it doesn't do anything but make yourself feel worse.

eastwoodsn352 · Post by **eastwoodsn352** » Sun Sep 10, 2006 4:20 pm

shit man sorry to hear about this...hope everything works out.

TNK · Post by **TNK** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 2:28 am

i appreciate it guys and gals. thank you

im living with my best friend. hes a bro to me... im in my new room right now, and DAMN is it cramped..... room is about 8x10 and i have a queen size bed, a huge dresser, my big comp desk and my 42 inch tv..... and i still gotta cram my clothes in

we had a party last night, but i stayed sober i had to work today at 7 am. but a copuple people are here now..... i let peer pressure push in on me though.... im in a REALLY have fun place right now.... :-S

Post by **Diablo0** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 2:32 am

Good deal man, stay that way

TNK · Post by **TNK** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 2:41 am

ait.... stay what way?

Post by **Diablo0** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 3:00 am

Happy and Sober

TNK · Post by **TNK** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 3:14 am

im not happy naturally diablo..... im not drunk either...... i dunno if you caught what i meant.....

Post by **Diablo0** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 3:25 am

Aparently not, I assumed since you said you're in a real have fun place right now you might be happy. I guess I assumed wrong

Sorry

TNK · Post by **TNK** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 4:08 am

i am happy. i really am. but i let peer prerssure get to me.. and i got "happier" :S but thankfully its wore off now... i think.

BlackRoseRacing · Post by **BlackRoseRacing** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 6:31 am

^^^
You hope

Hope everything works out sorry to hear about it...

TNK · Post by **TNK** » Mon Sep 11, 2006 2:25 pm

wow...i dunno what i was thinking last night. that was a stupid choice.