Call me daddy..? [Update]

Adionik · Post by **Adionik** » Mon May 04, 2009 2:32 am

Yeah they're not 100% effective but they've worked over a thousand times for me...except durex, piece of shit broke.

superdan · Post by **superdan** » Mon May 04, 2009 2:47 am

SteelBlue wrote:All I can say is parents take things better when you have a plan or at least an idea of what you, and your gf, are going to do to provide for this baby. They may not take the news well, especially since you both are so young. Thats not meant to be condescending but since you are essentially the 'baby' of the family it may be very shocking/suprising for them to hear. If the meeting doesn't go well don't take it to heart, they usually come around given enough time, especially if you and your gf are showing that you accept and can handle this joy and responsibility.

Best of luck to you and your gf.

perfectly worded.

my advice is that i dont have any. never been in your situation. sorry lol
my opinion is that even in the worst case scenario is that your parents become upset. Then like you said her parents said they would help you and your g/f out if you need it. if it were me and my parents became extremely upset i would turn to the person(s) that could help (in your case her parents). But thats probably the worst that could happen at the moment. If they do except it gracefully then those worries are out of the way. Then you can start worry about your medical conditions and the baby. I know it sounds selfish but from the sound of it you do want to be in the childs life, so just figure out and get all the help you can about your condition. it would be way more selfish to not sit your parents down and tell them they are going to be grandparents.

AGAIN, i have never been in this situation. These are just somethings i would think about doing.

and please people this guy is going through a hard time and is looking for advice and reassurance from his peers. He doesnt want to hear about your veiws of abortion, safe sex practices.

Good Luck bro just know that whatever happens will be for the best.

jetas · Post by **jetas** » Mon May 04, 2009 2:56 am

Oh man thats a shitload of reading.

1st things first congrats on the baby and the hispanic gf. 2nd im glad u dint abort.

break it to ur parents how i tell my parents shit, joke around about it. wen i told my ladies dad about me n her it started as a joke n him acting mad n now hes watever about it.

me and you are the same age, i kno shits guna be rough and ur most likely not ready for it at all. but just stick wit it. in 18 yrs itl be all over.

LowNSlow · Post by **LowNSlow** » Mon May 04, 2009 2:57 am

sxt03 wrote:I am going to take responsibilty for my actions, and i do wear condoms, EVERYTIME. So stop being a douche, ive aleady said we're having the baby. I asked for advice and help, not for you to point out crap like that.

My advice... was that if you didnt want it.. put it up for adoption.

Sorry I'm not sugar coating the situation.

MyNeonSaysHi · Post by **MyNeonSaysHi** » Tue May 05, 2009 12:51 pm

sxt03 wrote:So my gifrlfriend of 6mo has taken two pregnency tests, and both of which came out positive. Im 19, shes 19. She's hispanic and her whole family already knows about it, her mom is preety much estatic about the situation, her father not so much though. But thats beside the point.

Nobody in my family knows yet. Im white, my whole family is white and VERY old fashioned. Im the youngest of 3, but it looks like im going to be the first to give my parents a grandchild. My parents had me in their mid-thirties, her parents had her at 17 and 18. I have no clue how to break the news to my family, needless to say im terrified.

Any advice would be great.

Looks like someone is pulling the switcheroo. Good luck man.

heyitsstock · Post by **heyitsstock** » Tue May 05, 2009 3:05 pm

sxt03 · Post by **sxt03** » Tue May 05, 2009 7:52 pm

heyitsstock wrote:

haha. Who knew right?

So to everybody who was asking about how the hell i got her pregnant while wear i wore a condom...i have no idea. I pulled out and everything, there must have been some microscopic tear in the condom and the pre-cum swam on through.

Update on the situation: Her whole family knows now, i mean her WHOLE family, preety much her entire family line. Im breaking the news to my parents tonight, thanks for the advice everybody and ill keep yall posted.

INVUJerry · Post by **INVUJerry** » Tue May 05, 2009 9:25 pm

Good luck dude. If you aren't killed, make sure to report back.

OB · Post by OB » Tue May 05, 2009 9:36 pm

invujerry wrote:Good luck dude. If you aren't killed, make sure to report back.

I almost fell out of my chair when I read that! Jerry = FTW!

sxt03, best idea is to be confident when you talk with your parents. Show that you're a responsible adult and be ready to answer all their questions. You know your parents better than we do, so prepare yourself based on what you think they're going to say. If you seem nervous or unsure, they're going to be disappointed and feel like you arent ready for what's to come. That's why parents get mad, not just because of the situation, but because they're scared you wont be able to handle it. They're usually right, but they don't have to know that.

hansken_yo · Post by **hansken_yo** » Wed May 06, 2009 12:14 am

sxt03 wrote: So to everybody who was asking about how the hell i got her pregnant while wear i wore a condom...i have no idea. I pulled out and everything, there must have been some microscopic tear in the condom and the pre-cum swam on through.

There is another way, but it doesn't involve you.

I'm not saying that that is the way.... just sayin.

LilSparkPlug · Post by **LilSparkPlug** » Wed May 06, 2009 10:40 am

sxt03 wrote:
When i was 8 i was diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitis (look it up for more info). Long story short i taken 12 pills a day, and every 10 weeks i get a blood infusion. If i were to have the child i would get thrown off health insurance, which means no meds for me. Furthermore i could possibly pass this disorder down to the kid. As you can see this only hurts my situation more. I presented the scenario to her and her mom and they both said i could bail out on it, but i just cant do that, i wont let myself be 'that' guy.

Are you still covered under your parents insurance or d you have your own insurance? Regardless if they kick you off there is always free state health insurance for children and you could find a low cost plan for yourself that doesn't care about pre-existing conditions.

Either way, what's done is done, and it's honorable that you are stepping up to the plate to help her with everything especially since you have only been together six months. Best of luck with it, and just sit down as a couple with your parents and explain the situation to them. Tell them that you want to do the right thing, even though it wasn't planned, and that while you know they may be upset with you, you need their support and backing more than anything right now.

sxt03 · Post by **sxt03** » Sun May 10, 2009 10:29 am

Finally got to get back to this thread.

Told them that night when i last posted, and they acted as if they had already known. Stuff went real smooth, they said they'd help me out anyway that they could, and overall they seemed real happy about it.

At this point we're going to continue living in seperate houses and save up money till shes a month or two prior to having the baby then get married and get an apartment.

Appreciate everybodys responses.

JRM · Post by **JRM** » Sun May 10, 2009 12:49 pm

My advice to you: don't get married just because you are having a baby together.

SOKADAO954 · Post by **SOKADAO954** » Sun May 10, 2009 12:57 pm

JRM wrote:My advice to you: don't get married just because you are having a baby together.

x10000000000000000
bro dont do it man.

i know u going to say that no u going to do it because you love her.
no dude your 19 3 years from now u will be single again.
s0 why waste the money.

Wenuden · Post by **Wenuden** » Sun May 10, 2009 2:33 pm

Sykora wrote:
jake_tim wrote:
Sykora wrote: It's still killing a living human.
This is very subjective; it may be your opinion, but is it the truth?

/threadjack
you're an idiot. what qualifies it to be human in your opinion?

Breathing from the atmosphere, either on it's own or thru a machine. People have different opinions on this, and always will. Neither yours nor mine is necessarily the correct one.

Back to the OP:

1. Coat top three steps with vegetable oil
2. Tell her to go make you a sandwich in the kitchen upstairs
3. ???
4. Profit

farmboy · Post by **farmboy** » Sun May 10, 2009 3:10 pm

i do wear condoms, EVERYTIME

true they are not 100% effective...do yourself a favour though and when the time comes, get a DNA test. Not saying she screwed around...just saying. If your going to take responsibility for this, good for you. Make sure you're not taking responsibility for someone else's problem though. (Not trying to sound like a dick about this by suggesting that but it does happen)

Wenuden · Post by **Wenuden** » Sun May 10, 2009 3:36 pm

2k2rt wrote:
i do wear condoms, EVERYTIME
true they are not 100% effective...do yourself a favour though and when the time comes, get a DNA test. Not saying she screwed around...just saying. If your going to take responsibility for this, good for you. Make sure you're not taking responsibility for someone else's problem though. (Not trying to sound like a dick about this by suggesting that but it does happen)

QFMFT. It could be the best spent $3-600 of your life. Would be better to have it done by amniosentesis before the child is born and you sign that dreaded birth certificate. You could probably get it covered by insurance by saying you want to check and see if it will have that disease you know you already have. (or you could see my post above)

heyitsstock · Post by **heyitsstock** » Sun May 10, 2009 10:19 pm

Wenuden wrote:

Back to the OP:

1. Coat top three steps with vegetable oil
2. Tell her to go make you a sandwich in the kitchen upstairs
3. ???
4. Profit

you are full of classic quotes...

Wenuden · Post by **Wenuden** » Sun May 10, 2009 10:59 pm

heyitsstock wrote:
Wenuden wrote:

Back to the OP:

1. Coat top three steps with vegetable oil
2. Tell her to go make you a sandwich in the kitchen upstairs
3. ???
4. Profit
you are full of classic quotes...

Yay I made the siggy!

Mopar_Korean · Post by **Mopar_Korean** » Mon May 11, 2009 12:37 am

In some states a DNA test is free while the mother is still in the hospital from labor. Do it! I couldn't stress this enough! Ask me how I know.

She may get mad because she thinks your questioning her loyalty. Dont worry about that. Do it for yourself, your child, and peace of mind.

Congrats and the baby better be cute or ask for a refund.

Oh! I just found these so Im gona use them. They seem appropriate due to the topic of this post.

hansken_yo · Post by **hansken_yo** » Mon May 11, 2009 9:01 am

Glad the conversation with the folks went well.

LowNSlow · Post by **LowNSlow** » Mon May 11, 2009 6:56 pm

SOKADAO954 wrote:
JRM wrote:My advice to you: don't get married just because you are having a baby together.
x10000000000000000
bro dont do it man.

i know u going to say that no u going to do it because you love her.
no dude your 19 3 years from now u will be single again.
s0 why waste the money.

19 year olds can't love? I'm confused...

I've been married since I was 18..... almost 5 years now.

Theres no specific age someone "can" get married at... it's different for everyone. If he loves her and feels like he wants to be with her forever... why not.

If you're doing just because shes preggo...then I dis-agree with that.

supermike · Post by **supermike** » Mon May 11, 2009 10:40 pm

LowNSlow wrote:If you're doing just because shes preggo...then I dis-agree with that.

QFT. Holy worst mistake ever.

Adionik · Post by **Adionik** » Tue May 12, 2009 2:21 am

I hate to say it, and I know everyone IS different, but you should probably get DNA tested.

If you were pulling out with a condom then HOLY fuck you are the unlucky bastard that gets hit with that 1% category.

Aka Mr. I-got-hit-by-lightning on a cloudless day

PhillyLS1 · Post by **PhillyLS1** » Tue May 12, 2009 6:51 am

This thread makes me LAWL

A DNA test costs upwards of $800.00 btw. Just think! 18 years of fun! Who wants to have no responsibility in their 20's anyway? You can start having fun when you're 38 I guess.

abortions ftw

j-king · Post by **j-king** » Thu May 14, 2009 5:14 am

am 20 years old and i got a 1 month old daughter and am telling you its not easy.

but when i told my parents my mom was excited but my dad was more like i cant be fucking around any more cuz i have a responsabilty.

wen we told her mom, her mom made me fell like shit cuz she was like how the fuck could you get prego by him you could do so much better ur babys going to look like him.

but her dad on the other hand was happy cuz me and him get along real well

LowNSlow · Post by **LowNSlow** » Thu May 14, 2009 3:24 pm

j-king wrote:am 20 years old and i got a 1 month old daughter and am telling you its not easy.

but when i told my parents my mom was excited but my dad was more like i cant be fucking around any more cuz i have a responsabilty.

wen we told her mom, her mom made me fell like shit cuz she was like how the fuck could you get prego by him you could do so much better ur babys going to look like him.

but her dad on the other hand was happy cuz me and him get along real well

Damn!

JeffM · Post by **JeffM** » Thu May 14, 2009 5:50 pm

j-king wrote:am 20 years old and i got a 1 month old daughter and am telling you its not easy.

but when i told my parents my mom was excited but my dad was more like i cant be fucking around any more cuz i have a responsabilty.

wen we told her mom, her mom made me fell like shit cuz she was like how the fuck could you get prego by him you could do so much better ur babys going to look like him.

but her dad on the other hand was happy cuz me and him get along real well

Ouch!

Anyways sxt03, good for you and good luck. You're gonna need it.

INVUJerry · Post by **INVUJerry** » Fri May 15, 2009 6:28 am

Glad you made it through and posted back!! Honestly dude, dont get married for the baby. It seems like a great idea, but it can be a nasty divorce. Ive seen my friends parents "stay together for the kids" and it was worse than having divorced parents. Live together for at least a year or two. I dated my wife for 5 years and we lived together for 3 years before we got married. You don't really understand a person until you live with them for a few years. By the time you get married you'll see if you are really compatible with each other and if you are, the marriage will go really easy for you both.

Please get tested though.

JeffM · Post by **JeffM** » Fri May 15, 2009 9:09 am

invujerry wrote:Glad you made it through and posted back!! Honestly dude, dont get married for the baby. It seems like a great idea, but it can be a nasty divorce. Ive seen my friends parents "stay together for the kids" and it was worse than having divorced parents. Live together for at least a year or two. I dated my wife for 5 years and we lived together for 3 years before we got married. You don't really understand a person until you live with them for a few years. By the time you get married you'll see if you are really compatible with each other and if you are, the marriage will go really easy for you both.

Please get tested though.

Quoted for truth.

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